A Rape of Codependency

Isaiah 61:1, "The Spirit of the Lord God is upon me, because the Lord has anointed me to bring good news to the poor, he has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted, to proclaim liberty to the captives, and the opening of the prison to those who are bound."

For many out there, Codependency is not just a struggle but a terrible virus which has paralyzed their life. Codependency is defined as, "a psychological condition or a relationship in which a person is controlled or manipulated by another who is affected by a pathological condition."

Like I said codependency is to some like a virus. It can easily provoke some of the most dangerous situations that one has encoutered. So where is God in the mess of all this?

Isaiah 61 starts off by saying "The Spirit of the Lord is upon me." We have to realize that as much as God designed the human person. He will always be our sole leader. He is the bearer of all truth. he holds justice in his hand like a gold scepter, tall, bulky, and heavy. The ability that God has in our lives is the ability to break away from destructive relationships. The truth is whether you've struggled with codependency or not is that there will always be people you bumped into who have their own issues. Therefore I think it is time to look at how Scriptures manifest some basic principles to allow healthy growing relationships blossom and negative unproductive relationships be extinguished (or avoided).

The rest of Isaiah 61 writes, "Because the Lord has anointed me to bring good news to the poor, he has set me to bind up the brokenhearted to proclaim liberty to the captives."

God does not want his people hurting; however, he has given us a hope. Within the design of humanity we were given rationality, cognition, a brain. In our lives we must drive it by logic. For man to prosper he must keep to what is good for him. Many times codependent people struggle because they use potentiality to allow them to maintain unhealthy relationships to continue. However, the anointing of God has been given to man to not allow bad things to happen including intoxicating relationships. Practically speaking if there is even a  small voice saying, "This feels wrong!" or "this is not right? Something has gone awfully wrong." This is probably a time to seek truth. However, people forget to switch gears. They are driving their lives through emotions (i.e. potentiality) which is the perfect opportunity to be taken by someone who will abuse their poor decision-making, their natural ability to keep giving, and the codependent's unattainable gift for seeing the good in people. But to allow cognition to become the driver, a statement like this allows the transition to be simple... "Is this person being a light to your life or are they pulling darkness into your life?"

The decision now feels like time has frozen and you feel stuck but we have to realize that for us to find satisfaction we must only keep the people who add to our life not subtract. Therefore to be able to move forward into more long-lasting joy it means driving our lives with intellect in the drivers seat and our emotions in the passenger seat. This process in itself is a life-long learning process. As your journey through life we start seeing the signs a lot quicker and easier in making those hard decisions. But we start now, and over time, those decisions turn into a beautiful array of health, happiness, and an intimate relationship with Jesus. Allow His Truth to show you insight into what persons should be in the depth of your heart. Do not be afraid to say no! Jesus loves you, and you deserve a life of joy!